Sun Opposite Neptune: The Dream in Someone Else's Face

Sun opposite Neptune shows that a person often projects their ideals, dreams and longing to be rescued onto the people closest to them. At one end stands the Sun: identity, will, self-expression. Directly across sits Neptune: the ideal, dissolution, a yearning for something higher. In this polarity Neptune's fog usually appears not inside the person but in the faces of those they love or work with.

What does a Sun-Neptune opposition mean in relationships?

Someone with this opposition tends, for a while, to see others as brighter than they really are. A partner, business associate or teacher can first become an inspiring figure, a rescuer, or someone in need of rescue. Then reality surfaces and a wave of disappointment follows. The cycle can repeat until it's consciously recognised.

Another tendency is dissolving into the other person's needs. They forget to state what they want in a relationship, and where "I" ends and "we" begins grows blurry. Sometimes it runs the other way: the other person is evasive, vague or avoids responsibility, so Neptune's misty side is once again lived outside.

Seeing the real person

The lesson of an opposition is to hold both ends: to believe in ideals and to love the real person, flaws included. Concrete steps: giving a new relationship time without rushing, watching actions more than words, channelling one's own imagination into creative or spiritual work.

When they claim their own Neptune (an art, a spiritual practice, volunteer work), they stop expecting salvation from others and begin to see them as they are. With a tight orb the relationship themes are more pronounced. At its most mature, this aspect describes someone who sees the best in people and encourages them toward it.